Max and Allie

Max  and Allie

Friday, February 11, 2011

A Story



Hey Friends, I feel like talking about dogs today. I have been thinking a lot about what I am going to do about not having a dog!! Bambi is 13 years and 4 months old. I am happy to say she is doing very well. I know tho it is only a matter of time......... The vet said the last time he saw her it would not surprise him if she made it to 15 years old. For me that is not a long time. Tom is already talking about what kind of dog he wants when she gos. When I lose a dog I go into a deep depression!!!!!! I can't just go out and rescue another dog right away. I feel like that is being untrue to my last dog and I know that is crazy!!!!!!!! But that is how I feel..........
Tell me about how you feel when you lose a dog please. Or a cat if you are a cat person.

The flower is a Camellia for those who didn't know. They are a flowering shrub that blooms in the winter if the temperature stays above freezing. I have about 30 of the shrubs on our land.
They have had a hard time blooming this year and last b/c of so much cold weather. But when it stays above freezing they will come out and are so beautiful!!!

Love coming your way, Bambi & Fern

11 comments:

  1. That is a very good and valid concern. You will need the time to mourn. But think of it this way. MAYBE Bambi will feel better knowing somedog else will be watching over her humanfolk, since she won't be there to do it anymore. There is just no way of knowing for sure.

    I don't think it would be disrespecting to Bambi's memory when she goes, but it may be disrespecting to your feelings. Just know that Bambi will never be replaced. The new pet is another pet with a different personality, different everything. And that new pet will want as much loving as you can give it. Its a different bond with a new animal.

    I do think there needs to be a time of grieving though. Getting a new dog right away, maybe not. Maybe wait a couple months or so.

    When both my cats died, I wanted a new one about a month after. Because I missed the softness of the fur, the purring, the antics they do, the paws kneading. But these cats each were very different and they each have their own piece of my heart. My heart is big enough to hand out many more pieces!

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  2. I like to get the new dog before the old dog goes in hopes that I never have to come home to an empty house.

    Have a great weekend,
    Lynn

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  3. When Baron crossed the Bridge (on a Monday) mom and dad BOTH said NEVER again. No MORE. they claimed that they couldn't take the PAIN and would feel disloyal to the others.
    That lasted until they picked ME (Frankie Furter) up on SATURDAY. 4 1/2 days!!!

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  4. When my dog dies, I feel like I've lost a family member. There's no other dog that can replace it. I have found though, that getting another puppy can take my mind off of it. But I'm like you Fern, I am sad for a very, very long time. When Gracie goes, this house will seem so empty and cold. I just can't imagine my life without her...

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  5. Mom hates to think about stuff like this but one day she knows that it will happen. You have to do what feels right to you, Fern. That's what she would do.
    Your camellias are spectacular!

    Love ya lots
    Maggie and Mitch

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  6. When I lost my heart dog, Treat, I didn't think I would be able to get another dog, even though we had three others there at home already. I loved all three of them, but I had a special connection with her. She was a registered therapy dog and READ dog. We went on several vacations together, some of them halfway across the country. I felt like I was an extension of her and she of me. She did this dance of joy when I got home -- it was as if her body couldn't contain it's happiness that I'd returned. Blueberry was very good for me at that point, but I realized that if I wanted to keep doing therapy visits that I would have to find another dog. Blueberry was my husband's dog and Hawk and Lilac were too old to go on visits. After three weeks of just being completely bereft, we decided to go look at the adoption kennel and see if there were any available dogs. I met a lot of them, but never quite felt the right connection. The last dog I met was Bunny. She walked in so calmly and came right over to lean against my legs. I was hopelessly smitten. We had to wait two long weeks to bring her home and I worried over it the entire time. Bringing Bunny home didn't fix everything right away, but it was the first time since Treat had died that I looked forward to going home again. She doesn't do the same dance of joy that Treat did, but she has her own version, and nothing else can happen until I kneel down and she's pressed her little body to mine. She will never be Treat, but she is spectacular in her own right. Having Bunny around was good for all of us. It was a distraction from the grief and it did ease some of the pain. I was afraid that it would feel like I was replacing Treat, but as it turns out, I have a feeling she sent Bunny my way. I guess for me, I can't imagine NOT having a dog in my life, and I think Treat would be happy to know that another dog who needed one has found a home because of her.

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  7. We agree with Lynn, why not bring in a nice young adult dog now? It won't make you less sad when Bambi is ready to go, but it might help a little.

    Your flowers are just so pretty.

    Woos ~ Phantom, Thunder, and Ciara

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  8. Hi Fern. Me again. I've changed a few things on my blog. Let me know if it opens any better. Thanks!! TAke care and have a great weekend.

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  9. I know exactly what you mean about needing time before letting another pup into your life...but you are like me, and life is so empty without our furry family!
    Bambi says you don't need to think about that for quite a while!
    Happy weekend Girlfriend

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  10. Thanks Fern, I'm glad my blog is working better for you. I do appreciate you taking the time to let me know. ((HUGS))

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  11. Hi Fern, we knew Jack my heart dog a yorkie of 15 years had only a month left to live, it was heart breaking and I was quite ill in that month, looking at him getting weaker and thinking what it would be like without another dog in the house, Howard had never been close to him, but we had a talk and desided when his time came we would have another dog. We also talked about the breed of dog that we would both like. Jack held on until the 29th Dec 2009. when I had to let him go. Its still up sets me now. He can never be replaced. On the 23th Jan 2010 we picked up George he was 8 weeks old. We love him to bits, even Howard loves him, good job he seams to be a daddys boy ;)I think if you have always had a dog in the house,it would never be the same without.
    Jan
    Jan

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